Ex-wife is holding my collection hostage. Please help. - Page 3

hockeyguyrich · 12-27-2017, 08:34 PM

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Originally Posted by JMarchand1981

What if you enjoy being nagged and enjoy even more ignoring someone else.

I will gladly marry any collector on here with a high-end collection I cook and clean

rman112 · 12-27-2017, 08:39 PM

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Originally Posted by coltsnsox07

I'm picturing Sharon Stone going through the safety deposit box in Casino..

This is honestly the first thing that I thought of, too.

Well, either that, or that bethanyb guy on here..

tmar214 · 12-27-2017, 09:05 PM

Write up contract. Send to a Cosignor. Split post fees sale total.

dizzy4111 · 12-27-2017, 09:16 PM

You should just sell them and split the money.

She sounds terrible btw

RogerGodahell · 12-27-2017, 09:24 PM

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Originally Posted by ThoseBackPages

#buyersgroup

You called?

bruce76 · 12-27-2017, 09:29 PM

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Originally Posted by tmar214

Write up contract. Send to a Cosignor. Split post fees sale total.

Is this a better route than selling on your own?

Jocel · 12-27-2017, 09:34 PM

Fool her! Try get half half but ur taking the most expensive one’s.. of course how would she know of the true values on them..

Its like taking a candy from a baby.. lol

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BigZigBoom · 12-27-2017, 09:54 PM

Marriage: Worst contract on earth for a man.

josun45 · 12-27-2017, 10:00 PM

Fairest solution.. offer her what you truly believe is 50% value in cash.. and to show that you believe it's fair, offer her the chance to buy them off of you at that price as well

Whodey14 · 12-27-2017, 10:12 PM

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Originally Posted by TWard

You and me both.

But i would definitely hold your collection hostage if i was married to you.

Easy solution

Pre-nup

That said if I was in this position I'd be heartbroken. Sounds like she is probably thinking 30k if basing her evaluation on 50k for the bgs 9.

bruce76 · 12-27-2017, 10:13 PM

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Originally Posted by josun45

Fairest solution.. offer her what you truly believe is 50% value in cash.. and to show that you believe it's fair, offer her the chance to buy them off of you at that price as well

I tried with $10K. She said no. Based on what Ive seen on here, it seems like I gotta go $15K or even $20K.

eastbayak · 12-27-2017, 10:22 PM

Auction them and split half (if you're unattached to the cards)

And I don't understand why people are bashing your ex-wife. Based on what you shared, she's doing you a HUGE favor when she DOESN'T HAVE TO.

Best of luck. Hope it works out.

starfox · 12-27-2017, 10:37 PM

I'm not telling you what to do. But as for me, I would tell her to have the cards. If that's what it takes to make her feel like she won, then so be it. I don't know why you got divorced, but she seems like somebody to forget about. Forget about her and the cards. I know it hurts. I had a breakup many years ago. To get over it, I threw away everything she ever bought me. All I had left was a high school picture of her; I gave the picture to my daughter. Good riddance.

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rcmb3220 · 12-27-2017, 10:38 PM

The biggest thing to take away from this is never use one attorney in a divorce.

Davis · 12-27-2017, 11:35 PM

C'mon guys...criticizing marriage just makes you seem like a bitter person.

For those mentioning pre-nups, a pre-nup would not protect cards acquired while married. But I do agree with rcmb...always get your own attorney.

pingbling23 · 12-27-2017, 11:55 PM

If auctioning them off, wait until the playoffs. If kd has a big finals and back to back finals mvps....

xbignick · 12-28-2017, 12:11 AM

Send to probstein, receive a check. Split it.

ragingbull · 12-28-2017, 12:17 AM

Thread of the year? Haha.

SKOL28VIKINGS · 12-28-2017, 12:21 AM

I would guess that the 3 color is 20k, the 1 color is 10k, bosh is probably 500. I think 15k is fair. If she doesn't go for that send them into probstein and split the profits.

Brobocop · 12-28-2017, 12:32 AM

I’m confused. You call her honest here. She wants to split them 50/50 which seems like the right thing to do unless you got them before being married. If you did get them while married, 50/50 split on the value seems fair. You offered her $10,000 cash which is below 50/50 from what it seems.

Let’s pretend that this does go to a court room. I can imagine them using the eBay sales as the fair value, regardless of whether they were paid for or not or they were sold as part of some “buyer’s group.” I don’t know. I feel like we are missing so much of the story that it’s impossible to give any advice on what to do. Seems like she holds all the cards, no pun intended. You’re almost lucky she hasn’t gotten her lawyer involved here since I’m sure they’d love to know why this property wasn’t declared to her side.

Anyone saying this is why you don’t get married, well, maybe you shouldn’t be married then. Marriage isn’t the problem, never has been. It’s the people who get married that are the problem.

nman84 · 12-28-2017, 01:03 AM

Can you argue value be retro based when divorce happened? If this was before Durant went to the Warriors then that would make a huge difference

RAV2773 · 12-28-2017, 01:12 AM

Just have her and her brother list the cards for sale on Ebay and give you half of whatever they get for them. That way they won't think that you're trying to pull a fast one by listing them yourself. At this point whatever you get is better than nothing, and then use that money to buy one nice card to get you started back up with an investment piece.

airtaiwan · 12-28-2017, 03:22 AM

It's hard to judge the value based on sold listings or forum member.
Send those cards for consignment on ebay will be the best way to do a real fair 50/50 split.
If the OP want to keep the cards, try to win them all when listing.

Oldschool42 · 12-28-2017, 05:35 AM

Sharon Stone in Casino...brutal. This totally blows, but in the fog of war, er divorce, things can get overlooked. You just wanted it done and over with right? Like others have said send them to someone like Prostein, sell them, and then divide the sale in half...after you have an attorney write up an agreement.
When people divorce both are at fault, she may be a total bitch, the OP maybe a dick, whatever, it doesn’t matter. It just didn’t work out. Good luck, I hope things work out for you.

slum22 · 12-28-2017, 06:14 AM

If I’m consigning cards like this I go PWCC all the way over Probstein. These are super high end cards and I would trust PWCC to get maximum value for them. As a few others have already stated, I think selling and splitting 50/50 is your best bet. It sucks if what you want is to keep the cards, but if that’s the case you may have to accept the fact that you will have to overpay to keep them.

12-27-2017, 09:16 PM	#54
dizzy4111 Member Join Date: Jul 2015 Location: Wisconsin Posts: 700	You should just sell them and split the money. She sounds terrible btw __________________ https://www.flickr.com/photos/197828227@N07/ Sets In Progress: 1998-98 Topps Chrome Base Refractors: 147/228

12-27-2017, 10:00 PM	#59
josun45 Member Join Date: Oct 2011 Posts: 105	Fairest solution.. offer her what you truly believe is 50% value in cash.. and to show that you believe it's fair, offer her the chance to buy them off of you at that price as well __________________ Collecting: Michael Bradley (Everything), Denham Brown (Everything), Etan Thomas, Shammond Williams (NBA Cards Only), Current & Former Toronto Raptors (Autos)

12-27-2017, 10:22 PM	#62
eastbayak Member Join Date: Mar 2014 Posts: 17,608 eastbayak	Auction them and split half (if you're unattached to the cards) And I don't understand why people are bashing your ex-wife. Based on what you shared, she's doing you a HUGE favor when she DOESN'T HAVE TO. Best of luck. Hope it works out. Last edited by eastbayak; 12-27-2017 at 10:26 PM.

12-28-2017, 12:11 AM	#67
xbignick Member Join Date: Jul 2010 Location: New Jersey Posts: 29,316 xxbignick	Send to probstein, receive a check. Split it. __________________ @xxbignick on twitter

12-28-2017, 12:17 AM	#68
ragingbull Member Join Date: Jun 2014 Location: Philippines Posts: 768	Thread of the year? Haha. __________________ Main PC: TIM DUNCAN! Instagram: timduncan21_cardcollector Youtube: Revi Mayuyu’s Hobby Vlogs

12-27-2017, 09:05 PM	#53
tmar214 Member Join Date: Mar 2015 Location: Las Vegas Posts: 1,926	Write up contract. Send to a Cosignor. Split post fees sale total.

12-27-2017, 09:34 PM	#57
Jocel Member Join Date: Feb 2017 Location: Singapore Posts: 1,556 nbacardcollect0r	Fool her! Try get half half but ur taking the most expensive one’s.. of course how would she know of the true values on them.. Its like taking a candy from a baby.. lol Sent from my iPhone using Tapatalk

12-27-2017, 09:54 PM	#58
BigZigBoom Member Join Date: Mar 2013 Posts: 1,838	Marriage: Worst contract on earth for a man.

12-27-2017, 10:37 PM	#63
starfox Member Join Date: Feb 2013 Location: Alabama Posts: 4,561 I don't have one at the moment, but plan to. I don't have one of these either, but we shall see.	I'm not telling you what to do. But as for me, I would tell her to have the cards. If that's what it takes to make her feel like she won, then so be it. I don't know why you got divorced, but she seems like somebody to forget about. Forget about her and the cards. I know it hurts. I had a breakup many years ago. To get over it, I threw away everything she ever bought me. All I had left was a high school picture of her; I gave the picture to my daughter. Good riddance. Sent from my SM-G950U using Tapatalk

12-27-2017, 10:38 PM	#64
rcmb3220 Member Join Date: Jun 2014 Posts: 4,136	The biggest thing to take away from this is never use one attorney in a divorce.

12-27-2017, 11:35 PM	#65
Davis Member Join Date: Jan 2015 Location: Denver Posts: 6,517	C'mon guys...criticizing marriage just makes you seem like a bitter person. For those mentioning pre-nups, a pre-nup would not protect cards acquired while married. But I do agree with rcmb...always get your own attorney.

12-27-2017, 11:55 PM	#66
pingbling23 Member Join Date: Jul 2011 Posts: 16,157	If auctioning them off, wait until the playoffs. If kd has a big finals and back to back finals mvps....

12-28-2017, 12:21 AM	#69
SKOL28VIKINGS Member Join Date: Aug 2016 Location: Pittsburgh, PA Posts: 198 carmelo150_0 mullencr	I would guess that the 3 color is 20k, the 1 color is 10k, bosh is probably 500. I think 15k is fair. If she doesn't go for that send them into probstein and split the profits. __________________ My collection: https://flic.kr/s/aHskBfgrA2

12-28-2017, 12:32 AM	#70
Brobocop Member Join Date: May 2011 Location: Cleveland, OH Posts: 14,209 brobocop2	I’m confused. You call her honest here. She wants to split them 50/50 which seems like the right thing to do unless you got them before being married. If you did get them while married, 50/50 split on the value seems fair. You offered her $10,000 cash which is below 50/50 from what it seems. Let’s pretend that this does go to a court room. I can imagine them using the eBay sales as the fair value, regardless of whether they were paid for or not or they were sold as part of some “buyer’s group.” I don’t know. I feel like we are missing so much of the story that it’s impossible to give any advice on what to do. Seems like she holds all the cards, no pun intended. You’re almost lucky she hasn’t gotten her lawyer involved here since I’m sure they’d love to know why this property wasn’t declared to her side. Anyone saying this is why you don’t get married, well, maybe you shouldn’t be married then. Marriage isn’t the problem, never has been. It’s the people who get married that are the problem.

12-28-2017, 01:03 AM	#71
nman84 Member Join Date: Dec 2013 Posts: 775	Can you argue value be retro based when divorce happened? If this was before Durant went to the Warriors then that would make a huge difference

12-28-2017, 01:12 AM	#72
RAV2773 Member Join Date: Jun 2014 Location: NJ Posts: 4,837 baseballking973	Just have her and her brother list the cards for sale on Ebay and give you half of whatever they get for them. That way they won't think that you're trying to pull a fast one by listing them yourself. At this point whatever you get is better than nothing, and then use that money to buy one nice card to get you started back up with an investment piece.

12-28-2017, 03:22 AM	#73
airtaiwan Member Join Date: May 2010 Location: Taiwan Posts: 118 collection_zone	It's hard to judge the value based on sold listings or forum member. Send those cards for consignment on ebay will be the best way to do a real fair 50/50 split. If the OP want to keep the cards, try to win them all when listing.

12-28-2017, 05:35 AM	#74
Oldschool42 Member Join Date: Feb 2016 Posts: 1,637	Sharon Stone in Casino...brutal. This totally blows, but in the fog of war, er divorce, things can get overlooked. You just wanted it done and over with right? Like others have said send them to someone like Prostein, sell them, and then divide the sale in half...after you have an attorney write up an agreement. When people divorce both are at fault, she may be a total bitch, the OP maybe a dick, whatever, it doesn’t matter. It just didn’t work out. Good luck, I hope things work out for you.

12-28-2017, 06:14 AM	#75
slum22 Member Join Date: Oct 2016 Posts: 3,582 slummer22	If I’m consigning cards like this I go PWCC all the way over Probstein. These are super high end cards and I would trust PWCC to get maximum value for them. As a few others have already stated, I think selling and splitting 50/50 is your best bet. It sucks if what you want is to keep the cards, but if that’s the case you may have to accept the fact that you will have to overpay to keep them.