Just venting guys and an update....

Phanos · 09-23-2013, 07:46 PM

I am very sorry guys for not doing this contest yet....... Sigh........ In truth.... I have been going through some things....... In moving to Hawaii and the stress that it has put on my family....... My wife began to suffer from Post Traumatic Stress Disorder and Depression....... In moving to Hawaii... Let's just say.... It did not go over very well with my family sad to say. Some family became jealous....some envious.........some saddened........few positive......some violently angry..... That and the stress of my wife teaching in an impoverished environment in Hawaii (along with deep psychological trauma from her childhood) has triggered these conditions to arise.
My first and foremost duty is to protect my wife. This has not been an easy task. We are going to therapy to help deal with these issues and this week my wife has started taking medication.
I haven't had the coping skills on how to deal with this. That and along with having a demanding IT job and working at Gamestop, this hasn't been an easy transition to paradise.......
I am learning thanks to the counselor and also with helping to make our marriage better and coping and dealing with my own issues. I haven't forgotten about the contest nor the other commitments I have on this forum. I am just asking for patience so I may get my house in order. And I will post off and on when I have time
This has been a great forum and I don't wish to lose what little comic cred that I do have on this forum. I am not asking for pity nor any handouts from anyone.......... Not my style......... I just want to share with everyone what's going on and I will try to make efforts to do the contest, post movie reviews, and other surprising things down the line

I hope everything is going great with everyone and it feels good to post on the forum again.

natevegas · 09-23-2013, 07:49 PM

No worries and good luck. Things will get better, hang in there!

Jgil316 · 09-23-2013, 07:59 PM

Don't worry about a contest - take care if you family-that's the most important thing for you to do.

When you get everything squared away- come back- we will all be here

Take care

J-

IndySportsCards · 09-23-2013, 08:28 PM

You get everything square on your end first. We'll be here when you're ready. Praying everything goes well for you!

Hilfiger1975 · 09-23-2013, 08:31 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by IndySportsCards

You get everything square on your end first. We'll be here when you're ready. Praying everything goes well for you!

Couldn't have said it better myself.

21Pittsburgh58 · 09-23-2013, 09:27 PM

We're on your side and hope things get better!!! If we can wait for 3D cover Wednesdays, we can wait on a contest

When you are feeling stressed, concentrate on your breathing. It's amazing how simple that sounds, but it's a great way to relax and refocus. Relax your arms by your sides and take 5-10 deep breaths (or however many you need).

I wish you and your wife the best!

chibiboy · 09-23-2013, 10:20 PM

Our thoughts and prayers are with you brother. The therapy and medication will help both you and your wife. It's natural to be afraid of something new: moving to a new place, changing relationships with friends/family, trying therapy, taking medication, etc. As somebody in the Med field, try to be patient. Give yourself time to adjust to your new life. Also note that anti-depressant meds can take weeks to kick in and like with all meds, there can be side-effects. Don't be afraid to talk about these things with each other and your Primary Doctors/Therapists. Remember, not everyone needs to take therapy or meds forever. Sometimes it just takes time to adjust and this is just a temporary thing. Keep your head up.

aaronchua · 09-23-2013, 10:49 PM

I can only wish you all the best and let us know if you need anything.

techtre2003 · 09-23-2013, 11:17 PM

Good luck with everything and feel free to vent here anytime you need to!

LBSB333 · 09-24-2013, 01:28 AM

Best of luck sir! We'll be here waiting for you whenever you're ready to hang out.

talktoofast · 09-24-2013, 02:22 AM

Sorry to hear that Phanos, you've always come across as a great guy & I really hope everything starts to sort itself out for you & the therapy etc is helping.
My thoughts are with you & your family
It all comes down to priorities & when it comes to your family, comics are way way way down the list.
All the best

DNOC · 09-24-2013, 09:09 AM

Good luck to you. Take care of your family. Things happen, don't even think twice about it.

DigsUT · 09-24-2013, 10:14 AM

Family first brother....comics a distant second, third....or not even in view. Take care of your business and know that we will be here when you need a diversion

ratherunique · 09-24-2013, 10:27 AM

hang in there, just remember there's always the calm after the storm

Phanos · 11-02-2013, 10:57 PM

Thanks a lot for the well wishes guys! This is by far the best forum I have ever been on!

Thanks Again!

Cisco69 · 11-02-2013, 11:43 PM

I hope all is well bud.

The link below is a sketch I had done, I thought you'd like it.

Humberto Ramos Marvel Thanos Original Color Sketch | eBay

Chance · 11-03-2013, 01:33 AM

Anytime you need to bend our ear, We would listen. Us comic guys have to stick together. Best wishes to you and your family.

Phanos · 11-03-2013, 04:34 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Cisco69

I hope all is well bud.

The link below is a sketch I had done, I thought you'd like it.

Humberto Ramos Marvel Thanos Original Color Sketch | eBay

OH! NICE! If I wasn't already trying to get this Iron Fist #14 I would buy that!

09-23-2013, 07:59 PM	#3
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09-23-2013, 07:46 PM	#1
Phanos Member Join Date: Apr 2013 Location: Oahu, Hawaii Posts: 672	Just venting guys and an update.... I am very sorry guys for not doing this contest yet....... Sigh........ In truth.... I have been going through some things....... In moving to Hawaii and the stress that it has put on my family....... My wife began to suffer from Post Traumatic Stress Disorder and Depression....... In moving to Hawaii... Let's just say.... It did not go over very well with my family sad to say. Some family became jealous....some envious.........some saddened........few positive......some violently angry..... That and the stress of my wife teaching in an impoverished environment in Hawaii (along with deep psychological trauma from her childhood) has triggered these conditions to arise. My first and foremost duty is to protect my wife. This has not been an easy task. We are going to therapy to help deal with these issues and this week my wife has started taking medication. I haven't had the coping skills on how to deal with this. That and along with having a demanding IT job and working at Gamestop, this hasn't been an easy transition to paradise....... I am learning thanks to the counselor and also with helping to make our marriage better and coping and dealing with my own issues. I haven't forgotten about the contest nor the other commitments I have on this forum. I am just asking for patience so I may get my house in order. And I will post off and on when I have time This has been a great forum and I don't wish to lose what little comic cred that I do have on this forum. I am not asking for pity nor any handouts from anyone.......... Not my style......... I just want to share with everyone what's going on and I will try to make efforts to do the contest, post movie reviews, and other surprising things down the line I hope everything is going great with everyone and it feels good to post on the forum again. Last edited by Phanos; 09-23-2013 at 07:48 PM.

09-23-2013, 07:49 PM	#2
natevegas Member Join Date: Apr 2013 Posts: 1,530	No worries and good luck. Things will get better, hang in there!

09-23-2013, 10:20 PM	#7
chibiboy Member Join Date: Jun 2013 Location: Socal Posts: 87	Our thoughts and prayers are with you brother. The therapy and medication will help both you and your wife. It's natural to be afraid of something new: moving to a new place, changing relationships with friends/family, trying therapy, taking medication, etc. As somebody in the Med field, try to be patient. Give yourself time to adjust to your new life. Also note that anti-depressant meds can take weeks to kick in and like with all meds, there can be side-effects. Don't be afraid to talk about these things with each other and your Primary Doctors/Therapists. Remember, not everyone needs to take therapy or meds forever. Sometimes it just takes time to adjust and this is just a temporary thing. Keep your head up.

09-23-2013, 10:49 PM	#8
aaronchua Member Join Date: Feb 2013 Posts: 867 bizcwn	I can only wish you all the best and let us know if you need anything.

09-23-2013, 11:17 PM	#9
techtre2003 Member Join Date: Oct 2012 Location: Mid-Eastern Illinois Posts: 2,140 techtre1981	Good luck with everything and feel free to vent here anytime you need to!

09-24-2013, 02:22 AM	#11
talktoofast Member Join Date: Apr 2013 Location: United Kingdom Posts: 1,229	Sorry to hear that Phanos, you've always come across as a great guy & I really hope everything starts to sort itself out for you & the therapy etc is helping. My thoughts are with you & your family It all comes down to priorities & when it comes to your family, comics are way way way down the list. All the best

09-24-2013, 09:09 AM	#12
DNOC Member Join Date: Jan 2013 Location: Los Angeles Posts: 1,045	Good luck to you. Take care of your family. Things happen, don't even think twice about it.

09-24-2013, 10:14 AM	#13
DigsUT Member Join Date: Mar 2012 Location: Pflugerville, TX Posts: 4,538 djdigsut	Family first brother....comics a distant second, third....or not even in view. Take care of your business and know that we will be here when you need a diversion

09-24-2013, 10:27 AM	#14
ratherunique Member Join Date: Mar 2012 Posts: 1,262 enycep	hang in there, just remember there's always the calm after the storm

11-02-2013, 10:57 PM	#15
Phanos Member Join Date: Apr 2013 Location: Oahu, Hawaii Posts: 672	Thanks a lot for the well wishes guys! This is by far the best forum I have ever been on! Thanks Again!

11-02-2013, 11:43 PM	#16
Cisco69 Member Join Date: Apr 2012 Location: San Diego, CA Posts: 1,289 cisco9438	I hope all is well bud. The link below is a sketch I had done, I thought you'd like it. Humberto Ramos Marvel Thanos Original Color Sketch \| eBay

11-03-2013, 01:33 AM	#17
Chance Member Join Date: Oct 2013 Location: Brooklyn, NY Posts: 1,725	Anytime you need to bend our ear, We would listen. Us comic guys have to stick together. Best wishes to you and your family.