Long distance relationship...

patsfan1106 · 07-10-2014, 11:56 AM

Hey guys just want to here y'all's opinions on a long distance relationship. I know this isn't the place to ask but would still like to hear what my fellow card collectors think. If anyone has any experience with this please comment below! Thanks!

Situation: I'm 18 and headed off to college in August. My girlfriend is 17 and is going into her senior year in high school. I'll be 5 hours from her when I'm off at school.

statman32 · 07-10-2014, 12:04 PM

Depends on the age, and maturity level.

patsfan1106 · 07-10-2014, 12:07 PM

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Originally Posted by statman32

Depends on the age, and maturity level.

I agree. I added my situation for all readers to see.

chipmaster · 07-10-2014, 12:11 PM

If that's the case, DO NOT DO IT.

You are WAYYYYYY to young, and college is WAYYYYY to much fun - especially if you are out of state.

It's really not fair to either one of you.

legion624 · 07-10-2014, 12:11 PM

If you guys are truly in love, it shouldn't matter. But you are going to a college campus where there will be many more women then you have probably ever seen before, undoubtedly there will be some that will be as attractive as your girlfriend if not more. You also have to take into account not seeing each other as much. When I graduated high school and wasn't seeing my girlfriend every day our relationship went south real quick. Not trying to get you to break up with your girl, but I wouldn't be surprised if it happens. Good luck and I hope it works out for you.

Grimster · 07-10-2014, 12:18 PM

In my experience, most of the time the relationship will fail (mine and several friends). My high school girlfriend and I were the same age, but went to different colleges that were several hours apart. It definitely puts a huge strain on the relationship with that kind of distance.

I continued dating her for about a year into college, but then we broke up because things just weren't working out. I dated around quite a bit in college after that and ended up meeting my future wife my senior year of undergrad. Absolutely perfect woman for me. We've been married a little over 6 years now (dated for 1.5 years...engaged 1.5 years...married 6 years...) Wow we've been together for almost a decade! haha.

To each their own though. If you guys can make it work then that's great.

CMpunk13 · 07-10-2014, 12:23 PM

Don't do it. It's not worth it. Dump her and have a great #@#@#@#@ing time in college.
No college student wants to drive 5 hours to get it in.

Edit- I'm a 20 yr old college student.

Sikkcaden · 07-10-2014, 12:26 PM

It's worked for some, hasn't worked for others. No advice will do anything for you. See through whatever is in your heart.

SpastikMooss · 07-10-2014, 12:28 PM

I say break up.

I didn't when I went to college, stayed together with my long distance gf (she was 11.5 hours away). It was strained/messy for a bunch of months and we eventually broke up. And when I looked back on it there were a ton of times my friends went to a show or a party or there was some cute girl and every time I was on the phone with my gf or instant messaging with my gf and I missed out on some awesome stuff.

So I say break up. If it's meant to be you'll stay friends/maybe get back together someday but there are just too many experiences you'll miss with a gf back home and I'm not just talking other girls (though that's certainly important lol).

ajlaxmn · 07-10-2014, 12:28 PM

Odds are against you guys. I'd say go your seperate ways. If anything, possibly later in life if you remian in somewhat contact things could work for the better.

Never do anything like switch schools for a girl, not that you are, but just in case that route gets presented, not worth it.

asujbl · 07-10-2014, 12:35 PM

Having a GF in college - especially one that doesn't go to the same school - is the most insane thing an 18 year old guy can do.

Someone will tell you "I married my HS sweetheart" and that's fine. It happens.

More likely you'll be one of those miserable guys that didn't marry their HS GF and never had any fun in college because you were in a relationship.

Esepcially if you aren't even at the same school.

My HS GF and I broke up within 3 weeks of me moving to Arizona. Best thing I've ever done in my entire life.

Stay friends if you want for when you get home - then after college you can see what happens.

fullmetal · 07-10-2014, 01:01 PM

I did the same thing 17 years ago. She was a senior in high school. I was in college 8,000 miles away. We lasted until February of my freshman year. Haven't had a real conversation with her since that day.

It's tough. You're young. I met my wife in college.

Tblades_17 · 07-10-2014, 01:08 PM

keep the GF and date college girls on the side, she will probably be doing the same back at home....

chipmaster · 07-10-2014, 01:10 PM

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Originally Posted by Tblades_17

keep the GF and date college girls on the side, she will probably be doing the same back at home....

This is exactly correct.

RFulch40 · 07-10-2014, 01:12 PM

If you have to ask, then you already know your answer.

fullmetal · 07-10-2014, 01:13 PM

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Originally Posted by Tblades_17

keep the GF and date college girls on the side, she will probably be doing the same back at home....

My roommate freshman year had a girlfriend back home (from the school he attended his freshman year) named Racheal and was dating a girl while at school also named Rachael.

I made the mistake one day by asking 'which one' on the phone to the long distance Rachael when she called.

legion624 · 07-10-2014, 01:18 PM

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Originally Posted by fullmetal

My roommate freshman year had a girlfriend back home (from the school he attended his freshman year) named Racheal and was dating a girl while at school also named Rachael.

I made the mistake one day by asking 'which one' on the phone to the long distance Rachael when she called.

Epic. That had to be a great phone call.

TheFrenzy · 07-10-2014, 01:19 PM

Can work for mature adults. Unlikely for college students. Nearly impossible for high schoolers.

HOWEVER, if it keeps you from breaking the ultimate relationship rule, then go for it.

Ultimate relationship rule: NEVER EVER EVER move to a new city to be with someone you are not engaged/married to.

chipmaster · 07-10-2014, 01:21 PM

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Originally Posted by TheFrenzy

Ultimate relationship rule: NEVER EVER EVER move to a new city to be with someone you are not engaged/married to.

What if they can suck a volleyball through a garden hose? Does that change the dynamic?

fullmetal · 07-10-2014, 01:23 PM

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Originally Posted by chipmaster

What if they can suck a volleyball through a garden hose? Does that change the dynamic?

That sounds painful.

Verufian · 07-10-2014, 01:33 PM

She's in High School...which means during her Senior Year, she's going to be hanging out with her friends, whom probably have boyfriends. Going to parties, being the 3rd wheel, it's only a matter of time...

TrueNE_09 · 07-10-2014, 01:33 PM

We'll be just fine, don't you worry. I won't cheat on you with chip or ron or any of the other hotties on here.

Crisscross4767 · 07-10-2014, 01:33 PM

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Originally Posted by chipmaster

What if they can suck a volleyball through a garden hose? Does that change the dynamic?

Yes. Yes it does.

TheFrenzy · 07-10-2014, 02:15 PM

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Originally Posted by chipmaster

What if they can suck a volleyball through a garden hose? Does that change the dynamic?

I just mentally pictured my testicles being sucked out through my urethra.

legion624 · 07-10-2014, 02:25 PM

I don't know that I would be on board with that chick. That is too much suction for me personally.

07-10-2014, 11:56 AM	#1
patsfan1106 Inactive Account Join Date: Mar 2012 Location: Alexandria, VA Posts: 3,974 Briansportscards Briansportscards	Long distance relationship... Hey guys just want to here y'all's opinions on a long distance relationship. I know this isn't the place to ask but would still like to hear what my fellow card collectors think. If anyone has any experience with this please comment below! Thanks! Situation: I'm 18 and headed off to college in August. My girlfriend is 17 and is going into her senior year in high school. I'll be 5 hours from her when I'm off at school. Last edited by patsfan1106; 07-10-2014 at 12:06 PM.

07-10-2014, 12:11 PM	#4
chipmaster Member Join Date: Nov 2007 Location: puppies n kittie cats Posts: 10,049	If that's the case, DO NOT DO IT. You are WAYYYYYY to young, and college is WAYYYYY to much fun - especially if you are out of state. It's really not fair to either one of you. __________________ rainbows n butterflies

07-10-2014, 12:18 PM	#6
Grimster Member Join Date: Sep 2013 Location: Colorado Posts: 606 stealth6g72	In my experience, most of the time the relationship will fail (mine and several friends). My high school girlfriend and I were the same age, but went to different colleges that were several hours apart. It definitely puts a huge strain on the relationship with that kind of distance. I continued dating her for about a year into college, but then we broke up because things just weren't working out. I dated around quite a bit in college after that and ended up meeting my future wife my senior year of undergrad. Absolutely perfect woman for me. We've been married a little over 6 years now (dated for 1.5 years...engaged 1.5 years...married 6 years...) Wow we've been together for almost a decade! haha. To each their own though. If you guys can make it work then that's great. __________________ Current Bo Jackson want list - https://tinyurl.com/ybhx4csb Current Nolan Ryan want list - https://tinyurl.com/yc8q3rv8

07-10-2014, 12:23 PM	#7
CMpunk13 Member Join Date: Sep 2009 Location: Fullerton, CA Posts: 1,752	Don't do it. It's not worth it. Dump her and have a great #@#@#@#@ing time in college. No college student wants to drive 5 hours to get it in. Edit- I'm a 20 yr old college student. Last edited by CMpunk13; 07-10-2014 at 12:25 PM.

07-10-2014, 12:26 PM	#8
Sikkcaden Member Join Date: Sep 2012 Location: Pittsburgh Posts: 6,659	It's worked for some, hasn't worked for others. No advice will do anything for you. See through whatever is in your heart. __________________ High-End Basketball - IG: @skcdncards

07-10-2014, 12:04 PM	#2
statman32 Member Join Date: Jul 2011 Posts: 5,451 statman32	Depends on the age, and maturity level.

07-10-2014, 12:11 PM	#5
legion624 Member Join Date: Nov 2013 Location: VA Posts: 1,931	If you guys are truly in love, it shouldn't matter. But you are going to a college campus where there will be many more women then you have probably ever seen before, undoubtedly there will be some that will be as attractive as your girlfriend if not more. You also have to take into account not seeing each other as much. When I graduated high school and wasn't seeing my girlfriend every day our relationship went south real quick. Not trying to get you to break up with your girl, but I wouldn't be surprised if it happens. Good luck and I hope it works out for you.

07-10-2014, 12:28 PM	#9
SpastikMooss Member Join Date: Nov 2010 Location: Everywhere you look (Shoo-bit-a-ba-ba-bow) Posts: 18,752 SpastikMooss	I say break up. I didn't when I went to college, stayed together with my long distance gf (she was 11.5 hours away). It was strained/messy for a bunch of months and we eventually broke up. And when I looked back on it there were a ton of times my friends went to a show or a party or there was some cute girl and every time I was on the phone with my gf or instant messaging with my gf and I missed out on some awesome stuff. So I say break up. If it's meant to be you'll stay friends/maybe get back together someday but there are just too many experiences you'll miss with a gf back home and I'm not just talking other girls (though that's certainly important lol). __________________ Seneca Wallace is a better QB than your favorite QB

07-10-2014, 12:28 PM	#10
ajlaxmn Member Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: Turner, ME Posts: 7,275 ajohnbarker	Odds are against you guys. I'd say go your seperate ways. If anything, possibly later in life if you remian in somewhat contact things could work for the better. Never do anything like switch schools for a girl, not that you are, but just in case that route gets presented, not worth it. __________________ Die hard Chargers Fan from the State of Maine. "Always with them negative waves"- Oddball "Uh-uh, I don't tip"- Mr. Pink

07-10-2014, 12:35 PM	#11
asujbl Member Join Date: Jun 2010 Posts: 62,720 ohiosundevils	Having a GF in college - especially one that doesn't go to the same school - is the most insane thing an 18 year old guy can do. Someone will tell you "I married my HS sweetheart" and that's fine. It happens. More likely you'll be one of those miserable guys that didn't marry their HS GF and never had any fun in college because you were in a relationship. Esepcially if you aren't even at the same school. My HS GF and I broke up within 3 weeks of me moving to Arizona. Best thing I've ever done in my entire life. Stay friends if you want for when you get home - then after college you can see what happens. __________________ https://ohiosundevils.smugmug.com/ Browns/Cavs/Tribe/Buckeyes/Jackets/Devils TheFrenzy - “Blowout ain't a place for normies”

07-10-2014, 01:01 PM	#12
fullmetal Banned Join Date: Feb 2009 Posts: 13,249	I did the same thing 17 years ago. She was a senior in high school. I was in college 8,000 miles away. We lasted until February of my freshman year. Haven't had a real conversation with her since that day. It's tough. You're young. I met my wife in college.

07-10-2014, 01:08 PM	#13
Tblades_17 Member Join Date: Nov 2010 Location: Lexington, KY Posts: 2,000 t-blades	keep the GF and date college girls on the side, she will probably be doing the same back at home.... __________________ http://s1218.photobucket.com/albums/dd402/tblades_17/

07-10-2014, 01:12 PM	#15
RFulch40 Member Join Date: Jun 2010 Location: Springfield, IL Posts: 1,970 RFulch40	If you have to ask, then you already know your answer. __________________ Always interested in autographed ROMLBs. Mainly looking for prospects, but would take a look at anything.

07-10-2014, 01:19 PM	#18
TheFrenzy Banned Join Date: Dec 2012 Location: Texan in AZ Posts: 44,115	Can work for mature adults. Unlikely for college students. Nearly impossible for high schoolers. HOWEVER, if it keeps you from breaking the ultimate relationship rule, then go for it. Ultimate relationship rule: NEVER EVER EVER move to a new city to be with someone you are not engaged/married to.

07-10-2014, 01:33 PM	#21
Verufian Member Join Date: Feb 2012 Location: Puyallup, WA Posts: 3,284 Verufian Verufian	She's in High School...which means during her Senior Year, she's going to be hanging out with her friends, whom probably have boyfriends. Going to parties, being the 3rd wheel, it's only a matter of time...

07-10-2014, 01:33 PM	#22
TrueNE_09 Member Join Date: Apr 2009 Location: Boston Posts: 16,508	We'll be just fine, don't you worry. I won't cheat on you with chip or ron or any of the other hotties on here. __________________ Generally looking for BGS-graded autographs of Andrew Benintendi from Topps/Bowman products

07-10-2014, 02:25 PM	#25
legion624 Member Join Date: Nov 2013 Location: VA Posts: 1,931	I don't know that I would be on board with that chick. That is too much suction for me personally.